Grown

Grown don’t mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What’s that suppose to mean? In my heart it don’t mean a thing.

~Toni Morrison, Beloved, 1987

If you guessed that our first visitor from America was my daughter Miranda, you would be right. I’m thrilled to bits to have her here and introduce her to my UK life. I just have to remember she’s grown.

When she was a baby, I used to kiss her all over her face telling people who happened to catch me at what some thought was an excessive display of mother love that I was stocking up for the days to come when a mother’s kisses might not be as welcomed, knowing even then that children reach an age fairly quickly and rightly so that begins to give you limited access in some areas of their lives.

At twenty-two she’s been there for while, but I still need to remind myself sometimes. I know it’s healthy and normal and I am glad she has grown up to claim her own space in this world, but sometimes I wish just for a minute … I could have one more chance to shower her with kisses.

11 thoughts on “Grown

  1. Grown don’t mean nothin’ to a kid either – but don’t tell anyone, they’ll all want in on the act.

    Enjoy your time together. Now that WOULD be something to video!

  2. Oh how wonderful for both of you!!

    At 12, my daughter still leans in for the hugs, rests her head on my shoulder, accepts the kisses, and slips her hand into mine as we walk. And I cherish each and every one of these moments, knowing that the days are numbered.

    I so know what you mean about stocking up!

    So glad M is there with you now – a great opportunity for more stockpiling. Enjoy!

    (LOVE that photo!)

  3. Beautiful pinks in the picture! You have an eye for the unusual 🙂

    Have fun with your daughter. Tell her any extra hugs are from blog buddys.

  4. I do that too! I shower Sophia with kisses (she is 3, so it is easy) and think the very same thought. And at age three, she frequently (thankfully) reaches over to me and kisses and hugs and says “you a wonderful mommy” AAHHH. And I have to watch myself though because with my Lupus and past prime baby making age, she may be my one and only and I don’t want to smother her. But that quote is quite true indeed. Have a wonderful visit and shower your Miranda freely.

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